For some of us, heading into this Mothers Day weekend is tough. We haven’t had the opportunity to become a mother, but everyone we encounter seems to automatically wish us a happy Mother’s Day — simply because we are women.
I’ve been wished Happy Mother’s Day by delivery people, at the nail salon and grocery store checkout. I’ve been surrounded with choruses of Happy Mother’s Day as I walked out of the church building after a Sunday service on Mother’s Day.
All of the wishes are kind and well-intentioned. So why do they sting? Because I am not a mother. Before I ever had the opportunity to have kids, I had to have an emergency surgery that removed that option. I know others are in that same situation for various reasons.
I am slowly learning that even though some days (like this one) are tougher than others, there are healthy ways to deal with the disappointment. Nieces and nephews. Volunteering. Being a parental figure to kids that may need someone.
But still…I know. I heard a quote recently that helped me:
“Choosing to make meaning out of a loss is both empowering and healing. Make this unexpected, unplanned life meaningful and fulfilling anyway.”
“It can be letting go of expectations around what you think life should be, pushing forward with resilience and hope to create a new normal and understanding that our challenges don’t define us.”
Takeaway: There is nothing in the Bible that says you are any less of a woman if you do not have children — or that you are any less precious to Him.
Truth: “Can anything every separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean He no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity…No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow — not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love...” (Romans 8:35, 37-39 NLT)
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That takeaway and truth are both great. It's good to find healthy ways to deal with disappointment.
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